How to get yourself unstuck

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Do you ever just have “blah” days where you just feel like you are doing the same routine most days and need a change?

What I thought was a bad case of the Mondays, turned into a bad case of Tuesday and Wednesday too. I was feeling this ehh feeling- kind of related to our ongoing house hunting, (we found another home I loved but Frankie did not) still having an uncertainty around what I want to do career wise, and looking up jobs repeatedly in our area revealing the same type of positions that I either don’t want to apply for because they don’t interest me at all  or am under qualified for.

A lot of this had me feeling in a “stuck” mood these past few days- which I know we all go through at times.

Upon this feeling, I did what anyone would do. Consult google- of course! GTS. (Google that sh**)

I came across this extremely helpful article- here.

 

Upon reading the article I realized that a lot of these phases where I feel this way are related to my inability at that current time to be mindful and in the present. Did I forget that I just wrote about this?!

I really loved this part of the article….

Every year, I have periods where I feel “stuck.”

Yet when I look closer, I see that “being stuck” is a label I give to a natural part of life.

It’s a time when not much happens. The anxiety comes when I think it should be otherwise. I start to force myself to work, to come up with ideas, and to make things happen.

And when I don’t get anywhere, I call it being stuck.

So, what is being stuck except the way I perceive life?

As I write this, I’ve been in a stuck period for the last few months. The difference is that I struggle less, because I’m beginning to let it be.

 

As I sit here and write this, I have our Young Living Essential Oils Diffuser going and am listening to the peepers outside and just pouring my heart into writing. That brings me to my first tip for what I have found helpful in these “stuck” phases.

 

How to get unstuck

 

Get back to the things you enjoy. Even if it’s in a new way.

 

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There is something comforting and necessary for us about going back to what makes us feel good. Like for me- being outside in this beautiful weather was something that lifted my spirits this week when I was in my stuck mindset. I had work appointments out and I decided to try to see a new lake and reservoir I had not been to, only ever driven by. I got back to the things I enjoy- but discovered new places to go.

I would advise you to try to think of something you love but may not have been making enough time for lately and get back to that. But try it in a new way if you can!

 

Notice the little things & be mindful of your present.

 

So maybe we are feeling stuck in a job we have been at for 5 years but don’t absolutely adore or feel called to do anymore. We started obsessing over the future and “should-ing” on ourselves. Should we leave said job to pursue a new one- to feel better? It’s good to try new things- but maybe that new job ends up to be worse and we are left wishing for our old one back. This obsession causes us to forget to be present in those beautiful little everyday things that make life worthwhile! In the end it is not about what career we had that will make us happiest. It is looking back and seeing that the little things really were the big things- so don’t let them slip by you.

 

Pictures from this weekend….

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Stop Comparing Yourself.

 

I think we tend to get stuck because we compare our journey with others as well. This person is the same age as me- and they are doing “better.” What is better anyway? Everyone is fighting their own battles. Maybe that person appears to be doing really well on social media- but they are struggling equally as much as you. Your journey can’t be compared to anyone else because it is yours and there are no instructions or map to your life.

 

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Realize that the confusion and uncertainty are part of the journey.

 

 

Most people I meet do not know what they want to do with their lives. It is actually the norm. I think we focus too much on careers and having them as our identities and not enough on the other things we can enjoy in life…learn to enjoy the process. Everyone is going through it.

 

How do you get yourself unstuck?

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14 thoughts on “How to get yourself unstuck

  1. Great post! It is sometimes to difficult to be mindful and just be in the moment. I’m actually reading “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle because I find it so easy to get stuck in the past or to worry about the future.

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  2. I feel like this sometimes… who am I kidding, I feel like it quite often… so this is a fantastic post! I hope you can re-read your own post the next time you’re feeling stuck, too. Have a positive weekend 🙂
    Caz x

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  3. I have missed you so, so much. Seeing your kitty cat coat hanger instagram post made me think that I really need to get my butt back here. I’m so glad I did. I’ve felt this way lately too and can relate 1,000 %.

    I get stuck. I should all over myself. I can’t just sit back and enjoy—I need to do and be more and, we’ll—it’s exhausting. I love your advice here. And also I think it’s important to do the things that bring us joy, accept ourselves for who we are, and give ourselves grace. I experienced that recently with Bryan too where I fell in love with a house that he didn’t and it angered me. Like I was literally pissed at him, lol! Ultimately it’s a decision you’ll make together and I promise you it’ll happen and you won’t even think about the other homes 🙂

    Sending all my 💕

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    • Aww I have missed you too Charlotte! I have been the worst lately with commenting on blogs and keeping up but your comments always make me smile 🙂 I love that “give ourselves grace” that’s beautiful and so true… I’m glad you could relate to this post but not glad that you also get stuck. My therapist always used to tell me to stop “shoulding on myself” lol I think we could all benefit from that 🙂

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