Letters to the Universe { June }

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I thought it was time for another Letters to the Universe post.

 

 

 

 

 

The universe has been very good to me lately. So I wanted to send out some letters and talk to it a bit.

 

Dear June, Thank you for the good and bad you brought me this month. June will always be the month papa passed away but it is also the month that papa came back as yellow butterflies surrounding us. (Seriously– they have been everywhere and I even found 2 beautiful yellow butterfly wings on the floor yesterday.) I find comfort knowing that not only is he breathing better than ever up there, but he is flying over us in protection and freedom. Mom had finished off papa’s garden that day and I think that was a sign that he knew we were honoring him.

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Sitting next to papa’s garden under his lights last night with a dear friend XOX

Dear July, How the hell did we get here? That means more than half our year is over already.  Is it true that the older you get the quicker the years pass by? Because I feel it already. Please slow down.

Dear timing,  I’m beginning to see why you do things in the order that you do. I feel like it is all lining up the way it is meant to and I thank you for being patient with me and teaching me that same patience.

Dear self, you are going through some big life changes right now and big opportunities (more on that later) This is something you have wished and worked hard for for a long time- work hard, but take care of yourself, and embrace every second of it. And it’s okay to have some fear- as long as you use it as motivation. I commend you for getting outside of your comfort zone over and over again even though it is really hard for you. You know you cannot grow in the same place.

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Dear mind, stop thinking so much. If just for a minute. Or enough for me to sleep well again!  As Frankie says, “worrying is like a rocking chair- it gives you something to do but won’t get you anywhere.”

Dear Advil PM, thank you for being there for nights when I absolutely cannot take another night of not sleeping. (Not usually- but lately)  I know that’s not what you are there for, but I’m so happy to have you.

Dear my bullet journal,  thank you for being there for me when I need to organize my days and months and years. And my thoughts. Thank you for allowing me to create more mindfulness in my life.

Dear Molly, please stop hoarding my underwear in your bed when I am away and you miss me. It’s getting really weird and awkward…. but thanks for being my little weirdo with your quirky quirks- I feel you are the dog version of me. (Besides the weird underwear thing)

Dear summer and your little moments, you really snuck up on me this year but I especially love your night sounds, twinkly outside lights, and light bugs. In addition I really adore your swaying nighttime breezes, your hot and heavy sunshine basking onto my face at the lake, and your ability to really bring people together.

 

Dear Universe, We have a lot going on right now. But with the ups come the downs and without both, we may not know the beauty of the other. This balance is sometimes tough, but so needed in order to really truly appreciate life and all it’s craziness.

 

XOXOX

 

 

 

 

 

 

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The Things My Papa Taught Me

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This was one of the hardest few days of my life. My papa, Christopher McDonagh, passed away on Monday night after a hell of a fight of 10 years with multiple lung illnesses. I have cried all of my tears out for the rest of my life- I am pretty sure of that. I sit here crying again while writing this post.

Papa was one of my favorite people ever in this whole world full of billions of people. I just went searching in my email for more pictures and found emails from him I never answered- greeting cards he sent me for every holiday, even the little ones, like Valentines Day. Papa was that kind of guy- he just wanted to let you know he loved you and was thinking of you.

Everyone that met my papa described him as an amazing guy, the best gentlemen you will ever meet, and just a kind hearted soul. Those were all true and so much more. Papa was the kind of man who taught you so much along the way without even trying.

 

I thought I would write some life lessons that I learned from my papa who really knew how to live life like no one else. 

 

The Things My Papa Taught me

 

You can have endless dreams in life and re-invent yourself as many times as you want. 

 

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My papa served in the US Army, was a Good Humor man, UPS driver, Carpenter, Alaskan Pipeline worker, father, husband, grandfather, brother, Irish immigrant and U.S. citizen, and many other things I’m sure we never even knew. Everything he did he did it with pride and purpose.

 

“Slow down, you have more time than you think.”

 

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This is actually something he told my sister but when she told me it really stuck with me through him struggling and after his passing. When she asked for life advice he simply stated this. I can’t really think of better advice…

 

Family is by far the most important thing in life.

 

 

Papa left his family for 3 years to go work on the Alaskan Pipeline when times were tough and they really needed money. He always made sure to do things with us to keep us busy and having fun when we were little and would spend summers at nana and papa’s house. Papa would always lend a listening ear when you needed or a comforting word of advice.

 

Love is not always easy but it is so worth it.

 

 

 

Life is the most precious thing to us and it is damn worth fighting for.

 

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Papa’s fight was 10 years long and he fought so hard in the most admirable way.

We love you so much papa and thank you for giving us so much wisdom. Please watch over us and continue to teach us even up there.

 

XOXOX

 

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How to get yourself unstuck

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Do you ever just have “blah” days where you just feel like you are doing the same routine most days and need a change?

What I thought was a bad case of the Mondays, turned into a bad case of Tuesday and Wednesday too. I was feeling this ehh feeling- kind of related to our ongoing house hunting, (we found another home I loved but Frankie did not) still having an uncertainty around what I want to do career wise, and looking up jobs repeatedly in our area revealing the same type of positions that I either don’t want to apply for because they don’t interest me at all  or am under qualified for.

A lot of this had me feeling in a “stuck” mood these past few days- which I know we all go through at times.

Upon this feeling, I did what anyone would do. Consult google- of course! GTS. (Google that sh**)

I came across this extremely helpful article- here.

 

Upon reading the article I realized that a lot of these phases where I feel this way are related to my inability at that current time to be mindful and in the present. Did I forget that I just wrote about this?!

I really loved this part of the article….

Every year, I have periods where I feel “stuck.”

Yet when I look closer, I see that “being stuck” is a label I give to a natural part of life.

It’s a time when not much happens. The anxiety comes when I think it should be otherwise. I start to force myself to work, to come up with ideas, and to make things happen.

And when I don’t get anywhere, I call it being stuck.

So, what is being stuck except the way I perceive life?

As I write this, I’ve been in a stuck period for the last few months. The difference is that I struggle less, because I’m beginning to let it be.

 

As I sit here and write this, I have our Young Living Essential Oils Diffuser going and am listening to the peepers outside and just pouring my heart into writing. That brings me to my first tip for what I have found helpful in these “stuck” phases.

 

How to get unstuck

 

Get back to the things you enjoy. Even if it’s in a new way.

 

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There is something comforting and necessary for us about going back to what makes us feel good. Like for me- being outside in this beautiful weather was something that lifted my spirits this week when I was in my stuck mindset. I had work appointments out and I decided to try to see a new lake and reservoir I had not been to, only ever driven by. I got back to the things I enjoy- but discovered new places to go.

I would advise you to try to think of something you love but may not have been making enough time for lately and get back to that. But try it in a new way if you can!

 

Notice the little things & be mindful of your present.

 

So maybe we are feeling stuck in a job we have been at for 5 years but don’t absolutely adore or feel called to do anymore. We started obsessing over the future and “should-ing” on ourselves. Should we leave said job to pursue a new one- to feel better? It’s good to try new things- but maybe that new job ends up to be worse and we are left wishing for our old one back. This obsession causes us to forget to be present in those beautiful little everyday things that make life worthwhile! In the end it is not about what career we had that will make us happiest. It is looking back and seeing that the little things really were the big things- so don’t let them slip by you.

 

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Stop Comparing Yourself.

 

I think we tend to get stuck because we compare our journey with others as well. This person is the same age as me- and they are doing “better.” What is better anyway? Everyone is fighting their own battles. Maybe that person appears to be doing really well on social media- but they are struggling equally as much as you. Your journey can’t be compared to anyone else because it is yours and there are no instructions or map to your life.

 

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Realize that the confusion and uncertainty are part of the journey.

 

 

Most people I meet do not know what they want to do with their lives. It is actually the norm. I think we focus too much on careers and having them as our identities and not enough on the other things we can enjoy in life…learn to enjoy the process. Everyone is going through it.

 

How do you get yourself unstuck?

The Horrors of House Hunting

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Where have I been?

House hunting. It has been taking over my life. Ohhhhh….house hunting. If you have been there you know. The struggle is damn real.

 

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We have really been enjoying the process but it can be fun, heartbreaking, hilarious, exciting, and sad all at the same time.

We previously had an accepted offer on an adorable Cape Cod style home but after inspection it just had too many things that needed to be done that the sellers were not willing to budge on…and there happened our very first house hunting heartbreak as we had to walk away. It’s true what they say- if it’s meant to be it will be.

Of course there have been plenty of odd things we have come across while looking around….that I just had to share.

 

The Horrors of House Hunting

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There was the house with the wrestling rink in the garage….

Those are cemented into the floor.

 

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There was the house where I was really close to

getting attacked by a turkey…

 

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The one that was listed as a 3 bedroom “2 bath,”

with this being the 2nd bath in the basement.

 

Guests won’t mind, right?

…….Where do I put my offer in?

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The one with the Macaroni duct tape on the screen.

 

This will work….

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The house where Mr. Knight was your neighbor….

 

Having a constant protector could be good, right?

 

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The house where Jesus and germs were…..everywhere.

 

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I hope you guys enjoyed! There might be a part 2 of this is we see even more houses with funny and ridiculous things- which is quite possible.

 

Do you have any house hunting horrors?

 

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Currently in March…

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Guys. I am so very sorry for the lack of posts lately! Life has been nothing short of insanely busy…but in an amazing way. This month is seems especially true that life does not stop for anyone.

 

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This is basically me dealing with life right now.

 

If you follow my Instagram, you may know that I have been struggling with keeping up with it all. I wrote a post about taking a little step back from the blog briefly to re collect.  I mentioned when something that you love (like blogging) becomes an “obligation,” it can be hard to keep up with it. And I always seem to feel guilty when I don’t post every week. This blog is pretty much my baby so when I neglect it I feel that neglect strongly. BUT- self care!

 

 

Currently doing….

 

House Hunting. 

If you read my last Currently post you may know we have been house hunting… and if you have ever bought a house, you may know just how time consuming this process is. (But fun and an adventure, as well!)

 

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We have seen some pretty wild stuff while hunting….

 

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……..Literally- wild.

 

So we went to see a home last weekend that had a neighbors chickens behind the yard. We started out by saying “awww, they have chickens-how cute!” Until we saw this turkey come out of nowhere. He was especially feeling me and ran towards me and backed me into a corner- Frankie and our realtor were in front of me blocking me. I don’t think Mr. Turkey wanted new neighbors.

 

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Angry Turkey will keep you from selling your home

 

Update: We have officially put in an offer on this adorable little Cape Cod home as of today- please wish us luck and pray. I am so in love with it but also trying not to get excited as there are already multiple offers on the table. 

 

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Currently Celebrating…

 

Big birthdays…

 

Mama celebrated a big birthday and our good friend celebrated his 30th.

 

 

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Currently Celebrating…..Life. 

 

 

Also if you saw my Instagram you may know that I wrote about my mom having a very close call on her big birthday, March 19th. They were traveling on a 3 lane highway in the left lane when ice started coming off of a truck in front of them. My mom’s boyfriend tried to move lanes, but the ice kept coming and this time in a huge chunk of at least 3 feet straight into their windshield, blowing it out completely. They drove 5 miles with no windshield in the dead of winter, covered in shards of glass, with the heat up all the way, trying to flag the truck driver to pull over as he was trying to escape! They eventually got him to pull over with the cops on their way. This driver was let off with NOT EVEN A FINE. I am still in disbelief at the complete  Thank God everyone was okay- Jon walked away with a scratch on his arm and that was it.

 

Currently Loving…

 

Bullet Journaling. 

 

You guys have heard of this, right?! You know I loved my Happy Planning, but I just couldn’t stay consistent with it…Bullet Journaling offers a lot more freedom so we will see. So far I am really loving it. There are SO many resources online to help you and you can really make it your own.

 

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My spreads so far…

 

Currently watching….

 

Go watch. So binge worthy.

 

 

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What are your currents this March?

What an Introvert says vs thinks

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You know we all have those things we say but don’t really mean. And we all might say this thing, while thinking the complete opposite of that in our minds at that very moment.  If you are anything like me as an introvert, you often feel like you are not meant to cohabitate with humans. That’s why I have found my own little introverted haven and ways to self care. 

 

We often say and think the complete opposite.

 

 

We say:

” Yeah, that sounds great- I’ll definitely let you know by the end of the week if I can make it!”

While thinking:

……No, I don’t want to go to that mixer with you. Thanks for the invite, but that sounds absolutely like my worst nightmare. I’d rather be at home enjoying my own company than in a room full of strangers I will feel a pressure to impress, while questioning if I said the right thing. 

 

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Via: This article is my entire life

 

 

We say:

“No I was home when you called. I was just in the shower, doing homework, or feeding my dog at the time. No, I wasn’t ignoring your call- I was just busy! I’ll call you back in a few minutes.”  (Via text)

 

 

While thinking:

Of course I was staring right at the phone as I saw your call coming in. But why would you call when you know I HATE talking on the phone and am better with texting? And I will probably distract myself with something else for long enough so both of us forget that we even had a phone call date to begin with. I hope you know I still love you.

 

We say:

” Yeah- I have plans this weekend! “

 

While thinking:

I have plans with my dogs, wine, Netflix, Sims, and blogging. Ahhhh sounds perfect! 

 

 

(In social setting) They ask us, “Are you okay?” And We say:

” Yeah, I’m fine- just tired.”

 

 

While thinking:

I am tired, that’s true. I’m tired from trying to keep up with the conversation and realizing that by the time I have something to say, the topic has moved on. Often just sitting back and listening can be exhausting. All of the stimuli and things going on around me in general just makes me tired. But I’m not totally “fine” because although I am happy I came out, I wanted to leave about 2 hours ago to be back in my own space and get my energy back.

 

 

P.S.- Still relevant-

 

A Letter from your Introverted Hermit Friend ❤

 

 

 

Keep doing you my fellow introverted hermits. XOXO

Falling Waters Preserve

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This Wednesday I took a half day from work and took advantage of this strange 78 degree weather we had in upstate New York this week!

 

First, we grabbed lunch and got gyros- which of course reminded me of Santorini, when we ate gyros every.single.day. And when life was amazing….every single day.

 

P.S.- I also got a haircut on this glorious day- just some short and long layers, trim, and side bang cut… but I felt like a queen the entire day after he blowdried it for me.

 

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It was one of those days when I just felt content… 

 

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Not only was it 78 in February, but the sun was strong. It felt like 80 when it hit you.

 

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I hope your week has been beautiful!

XOXO

Shanny