What an Introvert says vs thinks

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You know we all have those things we say but don’t really mean. And we all might say this thing, while thinking the complete opposite of that in our minds at that very moment.  If you are anything like me as an introvert, you often feel like you are not meant to cohabitate with humans. That’s why I have found my own little introverted haven and ways to self care. 


We often say and think the complete opposite.



We say:

” Yeah, that sounds great- I’ll definitely let you know by the end of the week if I can make it!”

While thinking:

……No, I don’t want to go to that mixer with you. Thanks for the invite, but that sounds absolutely like my worst nightmare. I’d rather be at home enjoying my own company than in a room full of strangers I will feel a pressure to impress, while questioning if I said the right thing. 





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Via: This article is my entire life



We say:

“No I was home when you called. I was just in the shower, doing homework, or feeding my dog at the time. No, I wasn’t ignoring your call- I was just busy! I’ll call you back in a few minutes.”  (Via text)



While thinking:

Of course I was staring right at the phone as I saw your call coming in. But why would you call when you know I HATE talking on the phone and am better with texting? And I will probably distract myself with something else for long enough so both of us forget that we even had a phone call date to begin with. I hope you know I still love you.


We say:

” Yeah- I have plans this weekend! “


While thinking:

I have plans with my dogs, wine, Netflix, Sims, and blogging. Ahhhh sounds perfect! 



(In social setting) They ask us, “Are you okay?” And We say:

” Yeah, I’m fine- just tired.”



While thinking:

I am tired, that’s true. I’m tired from trying to keep up with the conversation and realizing that by the time I have something to say, the topic has moved on. Often just sitting back and listening can be exhausting. All of the stimuli and things going on around me in general just makes me tired. But I’m not totally “fine” because although I am happy I came out, I wanted to leave about 2 hours ago to be back in my own space and get my energy back.



P.S.- Still relevant-


A Letter from your Introverted Hermit Friend ❤




Keep doing you my fellow introverted hermits. XOXO


Falling Waters Preserve

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This Wednesday I took a half day from work and took advantage of this strange 78 degree weather we had in upstate New York this week!


First, we grabbed lunch and got gyros- which of course reminded me of Santorini, when we ate gyros every.single.day. And when life was amazing….every single day.


P.S.- I also got a haircut on this glorious day- just some short and long layers, trim, and side bang cut… but I felt like a queen the entire day after he blowdried it for me.


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It was one of those days when I just felt content… 




Not only was it 78 in February, but the sun was strong. It felt like 80 when it hit you.









I hope your week has been beautiful!




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I hope everyone is having a fabulous February!


I can’t believe how much it’s flying by, then again, I feel like I always say that!

But really though…. when you are always busy, time flies by much faster, too.

And lately I feel like I am always grinding.  In a good way- I have been doing a lot of things to try to set up my future and just working hard in general at bettering myself.


It’s been awhile since I have written a Currently post. Looking back it’s been since October?! So here we go…


Currently Celebrating…

I offered to cook for Frankie for Valentines this year, but he opted that we go out. We had a wonderful night! I also got him some yummy bakery items. (which didn’t last very long)




Currently doing…



School is in full swing with my Graphic Design class. In addition to this, I am looking into applying to a Web Design & Programming degree program. (I used to sit for hours and code my Myspace layout back in the day and I loved that sh*t, so we’ll see if I love this too) I read that they do night and summer classes so am hoping to apply by the summer, take a class & see how I do/ if I like it and then go from there. I hope to do both Graphic & Web programs together. P.S. I know I am crazy.

BUT anything with web and design in my opinion is a really smart choice right now. (it will always be needed and web developers can make some really good money) And while I enjoy my job often, I am a case manager and you can’t really do that forever. I have been thinking hard and working hard on other ways to make money- even if it’s on the side for awhile until I make another profitable income from it.



Poshmark, Ebay, & Thrifting:

I have also been working really hard on my selling on Poshmark (sold 3 things so far and am almost at 3k followers- woohoo!) I sell on Ebay too! (Between both sites I have sold 4 things within the last 2 months, which I think is pretty good!) Remember my Thrift Haul & Poshmark post? I am cutting myself off from more thrifting at least until I make a marketable profit from the last thrift- which totaled $80.00.




House Hunting:

Frankie and I have been looking for a house on and off for about a year and a half. We are more serious about it now and have met with a mortgage company and will meet with the realtor next week. We have seen some houses with creepy basements (definitely on the do not want list) and we have gotten to know what we want and don’t want in a house.


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Keeping up with everything else….

I still work 40 hours a week and my job has gotten  a lot busier in the last 2 months (grateful for this though), I still go to the gym at least once a week- the past few weeks it’s been Zumba classes.  I have also been consistent the last 2 weeks with only having 1 coffee a day ( 2 on a really bad day,) drinking less alcohol/more tea, and meditating and journaling more. #Selfcare

Oh and the blog! And seeing friends when I can. Damn, that’s a lot when I really write it down..



Currently loving…




Young Living Essential Oils.

Did you see my last post? Mom and I have been pretty obsessed with our Young Living Essential oil diffuser. Make sure if you decide to join our love & purchase one of your own, you use our member ID code in my last post!


Current Goals…


This goes along with my Currently Doing section but I have a few solid things I want to work on right now:

  • Maintain less coffee  & alcohol
  • Attend yoga 1 x a week in addition to the gym. This is harder right now with school, but just requires more planning with my homework schedule.
  • Keep meditating.
  • Work on Poshmark & Ebay for a few hours every week and up my sales.
  • Apply to Web Design program and register for a summer class.
  • Pay off debt & save money. I have been paying off my credit card bill little by little and now I just got a new medical bill.         Sigh.…adulting. 



Currently thinking about…



This time last year we were planning our dream trip to Santorini, Greece. I can’t believe it’s almost been a year since we went.

This year because we are house hunting and saving we may just take a trip to Florida…Frankie has never been and nana and papa have a condo there we may be able to stay at.

I have really been dreaming about going to Thailand someday.  Anyone been?


What have you been currently up to?











March to the beat of your own drum

“So, what do you do?”


I am a composition of many things-including stardust and dreams , like you & her over there. I am a dreamer to be more than one anything for the rest of my life, yearning to be a multitude of my dreams, wrapped up in one. I am someone who is not defined by my career, but by my person.

I am a blogger & a writer. I am a case worker, helping teens & adolescents. I am a career student- and yes, that means I have many skills. I am a lover of learning. I am an anxious person learning to cope. I am an animal addict. I am a dog person, inside and out. I am a gamer. I am an introvert. I am a fashion lover & a thrift-er. I am a Yogi. I am a traveler.

I am a daughter, sister, girlfriend to my love. I am all of my dogs’ best friends and probably their life.


How about we ask instead,

“What makes you the happiest & sets your soul on fire?”

March to the beat of your own drum. 



….”When are you getting married?”




We will buy a home and have a baby. We most definitely will acquire more dogs. We will travel for sure. We will do these in no particular order. We will probably do everything backwards and may question our every move of this life. What we won’t ever question, though, is our integrity to do our very own thing- as we want to.

And we might or might not just not be the marrying type, but the loving type for sure. 


March to the beat of your own drum. 


….Moving out?



When my dogs do, yes. Because I will miss them way too freaking much. On the real-Rushing out to spend money on rent so I can’t get ahead seems silly when I have a great relationship with my mom (and dogs!) and help out around the house and pay rent. There’s this weird thing where not everyone who lives at home is a lazy bum. I know, it’s crazy. Also damn- house hunting takes a long time. And mom and I love to watch This is Us and The Crown together. When I move out with Frankie who will I watch girly shows with? Okay, okay….I’ll keep looking for homes. With a Girl Cave.


March to the beat of your own drum.


…..”Are you okay?”



…….I was until you asked that.  If you heard how loud my brain is you would not be questioning my silence. Many times I would rather just listen and observe. I am okay, I just don’t feel like talking, probably because there is so much conversation going on in my brain. Honestly, my introverted self is quiet as this is the only way I can achieve a little bit of solitude while surrounded by people. Because I need that…to function. I used to think this was odd about me, but now I cherish it. You should too. 


March to the beat of your own damn drum. 







Reverse Bucket List: 2017

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Happy New Year everyone! 


Instead of writing out goals this year I wanted to do a Reverse bucket list post. I have been seeing these around and wanted to write one so what better time than the end of one year! I love writing goals, but the reverse bucket list is a way for you to look back on your year with gratitude for all you have done and accomplished!


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  1. Traveled to my dream destination-Santorini, Greece. This by far made 2017. Start here with my Stories of Santorini posts if you want to come along on the journey. The next few things on my reverse bucket list also took place in Santorini:
  2. Swam in a hot spring.  Definitely.was.not.hot.  But so worth it to say we did it.
  3. Ate a real Greek Gyro. (And ate them….every day.)
  4. Quadded around the cities of Santorini. And watched many Greeks completely ignore stop signs. (Stoptional, am I right?)
  5. Rented a private cruise ship. 
  6. Experienced the most amazing sunsets of my life looking over Santorini. 
  7. Okay moving on to the rest of the year…
  8. Went to Watkins Glen and walked under waterfalls 
  9. Rescued a dog and experienced first hand picking her up! Hey Molly….. 🙂
  10. Saw my sister graduate yoga school. (200 hour) That was a really cool experience & I am so proud of her!! Yoga graduations are not like regular graduations- there is a lot of chanting, meditating, and dancing! (Plus food)
  11. Went to a cat cafe for the first time! They even had cat cupcakes. 
  12. Went to my first bachelor & bachelorette party
  13. Reached almost 900 WordPress & 900 email followers on this little blog (Woohoo thank you all!)
  14. Put my first ads on my blog & got accepted as a Target Affiliate
  15. Reached out to many brands for collaborations. Sure I got no answers on quite a few but I still did it…
  16. Left my job to pursue working at an animal hospital
  17. Came back to my job in realizing the animal hospital life is not for me. Learned I really don’t want to be a Vet Tech. 
  18. Went back to school to take Graphic Design classes. So far I love it and am continuing with it and want to take Web Design classes too so we will see what happens. Anyone else following this path?
  19. Got to design a logo for my fundraiser at my job. It was really cool to see my logo on the photos every one took on the red carpet!
  20. Met with a funding group about buying a house. Doing big adulting things is well….scary. We have been looking at homes on and off for about a year and a half, but now we are definitely getting more serious about it. We weren’t really ready until recently and now we are really excited about it.
  21. Went to a lighthouse
  22. Went to see my sister’s new place in Wakefield, Rhode Island. 
  23. Did a photo shoot with a photographer on a USS Slater ship. It was a 1940’s vintage shoot!
  24. Went to a great pumpkin blaze with thousands of lit Jackolanterns
  25. Got the chance to work with Rover.com on this blog & have them write a blog post for me and Tweet it on their Twitter. As a dog lover, this was really cool for me and I always love developing new relationships with brands to work with.


So cheers to all of our accomplishments this past year and sure– we’ll set some goals too. But most of all, we will be proud of ourselves and how far we have come. We will live in gratitude and have more presence in our daily lives, being mindful of our steps as we take them.

“Don’t look back- you’re not going that way”


Molly’s Jolly 1st Christmas

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I hope you all had wonderful and blessed holidays with your loved ones.

I know we did. Especially with our new addition this year- our rescue Chion, Molly. Have you read the story of our sweet Southern belle Molly? 

So how does a rescue dog from the South enjoy her first snowy Christmas, anyway?

First off, she really enjoys eating the snow and running in it in circles like a little lunatic.




She was a great helper with all of the holiday prep….including making cookies and grabbing the decorations.


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Molly really enjoyed dressing in her “Santa’s Little Helper” dress on Christmas morning.

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She also really enjoyed the presents Santa brought her…as you can see, so did the other babies.


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“Every friggen year…”

After presents, Molly found herself a little….exhausted. My mom caught her sitting on the couch like this…I just can’t deal with her.



Okay act natural and maybe they will take 1 and be done.


This day just wore me out…


Sudden thought: I hope they don’t dress me up every year…


Really guys this little photo shoot is getting ridiculous…


Okay just sleep through it…


It’s hopeless…this is my fate.

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I can’t wait to spend many more Christmases with you to come my little girl…. XOXOX

How to support loved ones with holiday blues

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That time of year again! Christmas and snow. I am a Christmas lover and always have been. I think it’s partially because we grew up loving the holiday and all it brings and my mom did (still does) everything possible to embrace the holidays.

However, my dad was always upset at Christmas time. His family was back in Ireland and so Christmas for him was never something he never looked forward to. It was kind of hard to be around at times because we all loved the holiday so much.  

But it’s important to be supportive of those who don’t feel the holiday magic like we do- for whatever reason that may be for them.


This holiday season, it seems like those around me are struggling more than usual. Many of them are having mental health issues and the “pressure” of the holidays cheerfulness is getting to them. Some have grieved for many years and every year Christmas is a struggle.

Do you have anyone you love struggling through the season as well?





How to support loved ones with holiday blues:


Let them do their own thing. 


Don’t pressure them to celebrate if they aren’t feeling up to it. They already can’t escape the holiday decorations in every store, the holiday music on every station, and Christmas movies no matter what channel they are on. It might be hard for you to come to terms with not doing these things together, but if you give them space and time they may come around enough to enjoy it, if even just a little bit.


But know when they need someone around them. 


I had someone who was struggling tell me they wanted to be left alone but I felt like they really needed someone nearby. So I went over and they later told me that they were happy that they had me there. Sometimes people don’t know what they want in their struggle and need help seeing that.


Get them a thoughtful gift.


This may seem like a silly one but if you get them a thoughtful and personal gift  for the holiday they will feel better about celebrating!


Help them with holiday preparation.


If they are not feeling in the holiday spirit and generally down and out, they are probably not going to want to do anything necessary to make the holiday happen. Things like baking and holiday shopping can feel like a chore to them. Helping them with anything they need to make it happen will be a big support.


Ask them if they want to talk about it.


If they do, just listen. If they don’t, just be there for support when they do.


Encourage them to do what makes them happy & keep busy.


Keeping busy helps people not focus so much on their mind so it’s important to help them realize they need to continue their normal routines, hobbies, and interests.  (Also exercise is really important!) Maybe encourage them to go for a walk with you if they need help staying motivated.


Suggest doing something helpful around the holiday.


Volunteering in the community, doing Toys for Tots, giving time to those in need that have less than us makes us feel good. It also takes the pressure off of the person you know whose struggling to enjoy the holiday and makes it not about them, but about those they help.





How do you help your loved ones who struggle with holiday blues?