How to get yourself unstuck

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Do you ever just have “blah” days where you just feel like you are doing the same routine most days and need a change?

What I thought was a bad case of the Mondays, turned into a bad case of Tuesday and Wednesday too. I was feeling this ehh feeling- kind of related to our ongoing house hunting, (we found another home I loved but Frankie did not) still having an uncertainty around what I want to do career wise, and looking up jobs repeatedly in our area revealing the same type of positions that I either don’t want to apply for because they don’t interest me at all  or am under qualified for.

A lot of this had me feeling in a “stuck” mood these past few days- which I know we all go through at times.

Upon this feeling, I did what anyone would do. Consult google- of course! GTS. (Google that sh**)

I came across this extremely helpful article- here.

 

Upon reading the article I realized that a lot of these phases where I feel this way are related to my inability at that current time to be mindful and in the present. Did I forget that I just wrote about this?!

I really loved this part of the article….

Every year, I have periods where I feel “stuck.”

Yet when I look closer, I see that “being stuck” is a label I give to a natural part of life.

It’s a time when not much happens. The anxiety comes when I think it should be otherwise. I start to force myself to work, to come up with ideas, and to make things happen.

And when I don’t get anywhere, I call it being stuck.

So, what is being stuck except the way I perceive life?

As I write this, I’ve been in a stuck period for the last few months. The difference is that I struggle less, because I’m beginning to let it be.

 

As I sit here and write this, I have our Young Living Essential Oils Diffuser going and am listening to the peepers outside and just pouring my heart into writing. That brings me to my first tip for what I have found helpful in these “stuck” phases.

 

How to get unstuck

 

Get back to the things you enjoy. Even if it’s in a new way.

 

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There is something comforting and necessary for us about going back to what makes us feel good. Like for me- being outside in this beautiful weather was something that lifted my spirits this week when I was in my stuck mindset. I had work appointments out and I decided to try to see a new lake and reservoir I had not been to, only ever driven by. I got back to the things I enjoy- but discovered new places to go.

I would advise you to try to think of something you love but may not have been making enough time for lately and get back to that. But try it in a new way if you can!

 

Notice the little things & be mindful of your present.

 

So maybe we are feeling stuck in a job we have been at for 5 years but don’t absolutely adore or feel called to do anymore. We started obsessing over the future and “should-ing” on ourselves. Should we leave said job to pursue a new one- to feel better? It’s good to try new things- but maybe that new job ends up to be worse and we are left wishing for our old one back. This obsession causes us to forget to be present in those beautiful little everyday things that make life worthwhile! In the end it is not about what career we had that will make us happiest. It is looking back and seeing that the little things really were the big things- so don’t let them slip by you.

 

Pictures from this weekend….

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Stop Comparing Yourself.

 

I think we tend to get stuck because we compare our journey with others as well. This person is the same age as me- and they are doing “better.” What is better anyway? Everyone is fighting their own battles. Maybe that person appears to be doing really well on social media- but they are struggling equally as much as you. Your journey can’t be compared to anyone else because it is yours and there are no instructions or map to your life.

 

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Realize that the confusion and uncertainty are part of the journey.

 

 

Most people I meet do not know what they want to do with their lives. It is actually the norm. I think we focus too much on careers and having them as our identities and not enough on the other things we can enjoy in life…learn to enjoy the process. Everyone is going through it.

 

How do you get yourself unstuck?

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Bullet Journal Diary: Part 2- Focusing on the present

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I have been using my bullet journal more than ever lately. What I have realized from the time I have had with it so far is that it has been helping me focus on the present more.

 

First post here- Bullet Journal Diary: Part 1

 

I think we could all use a little help being able to focus on the present more.

To breathe. To be mindful.

 

Except dogs- they have that pretty down pat. They just run and they don’t think about it. They chase the ball- not knowing if they will get it or make it in time.

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Just go for it.

 

I can’t believe it’s May already. I feel like this year is definitely going by faster than last year already.

Please excuse the pictures below as Molly stepped across my journal with her muddy feet. =P

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Washi tape is still my best friend when I make mistakes.

 

Another thing I love about bullet journaling is the ability to look back and see what you have done, how you have improved and made progress (especially using these habit trackers), and remembering your memories. It feels pretty good to fill in boxes for good things like exercising, meditation, no alcohol, etc.

 

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I have been tracking my self care, moods, and habits. I find it easier to be consistent with the journal compared to planning because once you do one of these for the month, you just fill them in day to day.

 

I got this tea cup mood tracker idea from Pinterest but really love how it came out.

How cute is this?!

 

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The Bullet Journal has been wonderful for my mental health as well. Good habits on the tracker boost your self esteem and hold yourself accountable and looking back at your mood tracker helps you to realize even more that we are all human! That means- the good days and the bad. 

What an Introvert says vs thinks

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You know we all have those things we say but don’t really mean. And we all might say this thing, while thinking the complete opposite of that in our minds at that very moment.  If you are anything like me as an introvert, you often feel like you are not meant to cohabitate with humans. That’s why I have found my own little introverted haven and ways to self care. 

 

We often say and think the complete opposite.

 

 

We say:

” Yeah, that sounds great- I’ll definitely let you know by the end of the week if I can make it!”

While thinking:

……No, I don’t want to go to that mixer with you. Thanks for the invite, but that sounds absolutely like my worst nightmare. I’d rather be at home enjoying my own company than in a room full of strangers I will feel a pressure to impress, while questioning if I said the right thing. 

 

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Via: This article is my entire life

 

 

We say:

“No I was home when you called. I was just in the shower, doing homework, or feeding my dog at the time. No, I wasn’t ignoring your call- I was just busy! I’ll call you back in a few minutes.”  (Via text)

 

 

While thinking:

Of course I was staring right at the phone as I saw your call coming in. But why would you call when you know I HATE talking on the phone and am better with texting? And I will probably distract myself with something else for long enough so both of us forget that we even had a phone call date to begin with. I hope you know I still love you.

 

We say:

” Yeah- I have plans this weekend! “

 

While thinking:

I have plans with my dogs, wine, Netflix, Sims, and blogging. Ahhhh sounds perfect! 

 

 

(In social setting) They ask us, “Are you okay?” And We say:

” Yeah, I’m fine- just tired.”

 

 

While thinking:

I am tired, that’s true. I’m tired from trying to keep up with the conversation and realizing that by the time I have something to say, the topic has moved on. Often just sitting back and listening can be exhausting. All of the stimuli and things going on around me in general just makes me tired. But I’m not totally “fine” because although I am happy I came out, I wanted to leave about 2 hours ago to be back in my own space and get my energy back.

 

 

P.S.- Still relevant-

 

A Letter from your Introverted Hermit Friend ❤

 

 

 

Keep doing you my fellow introverted hermits. XOXO

An Introvert’s “Peace” of Mind

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Ohhhhh, Sunday.

This weekend was a busy one.

I had a bunch of things I wanted to get done (and I did) and had to work a fundraising event for my job today.

Tomorrow brings Monday yet again and also brings… people. Lol.

I have talked about my Introversion  a few times and have definitely come to terms with it over the years, and even learned to embrace it and take pride in it.

Being an introvert with anxiety takes on a whole new level of self care that is needed to get by in every day normal life.  Self doubt thoughts are common and hard to shut off and we tend to…..ruminate. Any other anxious introverts out there with me? (This is not my life goal to be known as this, but it is what it is, so let’s all forge together now and bond over it, okay?) Some day I will talk about my particular anxiety I struggle with when I have the courage more on this blog.

Talking about mental health is so very important. Working on our own mental health is incredibly vital.

So I created this sanctuary.

This Introvert’s Haven.

This little mediation corner.

 

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Candles, plants, meditation pillow, & essential oils.

Lately I have been meditating to summer crickets or rain/rainforest sounds. Do you also know about the Insight Timer app? It’s great and full of guided mediations and wonderful calming sounds.

Winter is at that “feeling way too damn long” point right now (thanks February) and trust me- listening to these summer sounds with the lights off, eyes closed, with some yummy and soothing smells really helps ease the mind.

Something that has really helped me lately are essential oils. My mom and I have been really into Young Living Essential Oils right now. She wrote her own post about it here. 

 

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Essential oils are very therapeutic and there are so many combinations that you can put together for different purposes- stress, headaches, congestion- just to name a few.

So when I need a little down time, I shut the lights (and the world) off, light a candle, turn my salt lamp on, and pour some water and oils into my diffuser- this one’s the desert mist diffuser. 

This diffuser changes colors as it diffuses which is extremely calming. (And fun to watch)

 

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Tonight i’m diffusing: Copaiba, Cedarwood, and Lavender (for stress)

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We also have a few other stress relieving oils like this Tranquil roller ball (I love it so much) and Stress Away oil for the diffuser.

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My mom has the Aria diffuser, which is really amazing because it comes with a remote, has a glass dome, and it plays meditative music as it diffuses. She got this with the premium starter kit, which comes with 11 oils.

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And we finish with a wise word from my mama…

If you think Essential Oils might be for you, take a pop over to Young Living and check out the Premium Starter Kits – they are definitely the most ‘bang for your buck’ to get started on your journey. You will want to become a ‘member’ to purchase a kit – it doesn’t cost you anything and you have no further obligation, but it does guarantee you get the wholesale pricing, which is far less expensive than retail pricing! When I reviewed the individual oils, diffusers, etc. it was going to add up to a LOT more than buy purchasing the kit, so I went with the kit, it just made sense. If you do place an order, please use my member number 13867635 in both the SPONSOR ID and ENROLLER fields so they know you are part of my essential oils family.

 

Why I love being an Introvert

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(Listen while you read, please.  🙂 I pick songs based on my feelings while I write….P.S….Introverts have good taste in music.)

 

 

Remember awhile back, when I wrote my Letter from your introverted [hermit] friend post?

 

I started talking about introversion because I feel like it so important for people like me, who love being alone and actually re-charge their energy from that, to embrace it and know that not only is it okay, it’s actually really cool. 

 

I wasn’t always like this. I used to think I was strange for often preferring to stay home, while everyone else was going out.

 

If you don’t know what an Introvert is, it is basically someone who turns inward mentally (we also tend to overthink a lot) and get their energy back from spending time alone. 

 

 

It was not until recently that I started thinking about all of the benefits and the things I have learned about myself from being an introvert.

While I think part of this is ingrained in my personality at birth, I think I really started enjoying time alone when I started gaming.

Growing up, my mom was in a band and worked late gigs on the weekends and I would often spend most of my Saturdays and Sundays playing Sims to keep busy (back when it first came out 17 years ago!)

I would get so engulfed in the game and could get lost in hours of gameplay- I still do!

 

 

If you are an introvert like me, or even if you are not, maybe you can look into yourself too and see what this personality trait has really done for you! If you struggle with being alone, I really encourage you to begin to get comfortable with it. It will teach you a lot about yourself and who are you.

 

Why I love being an Introvert:

 

1.) Alone time helped me discover who I am.

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I know what I like and don’t like, I have found and developed more hobbies than I can even keep up with (lol) and through these hobbies, I feel more truly myself. When you find what you love and do more of that, everything just feels more sincerely you. 

I think it is an amazing life skill to have to be comfortable and accept your own presence. I frequent my favorite place on earth very often during the summer, the lake! With just myself and my dog Daisy. I used to feel awkward and like people were looking at me- now I read my book, play in the water, and bask in the sunshine and the glory of not caring about any of that anymore and enjoying my time.

Be proud to have plans with just you!

After all, this blog probably wouldn’t exist if I was not alone as much.

 

2.) I have found my creative side.

I used to think being creative meant you were “good” at art- I can draw no more than a stick figure and used to think because I did not have an artsy side, I was not creative. Through growing up and finding myself,  I have realized that art is much more than painting and drawing and my kind of art is planning, fashion, photography, and putting words, pictures, and music together in this here little blog space. Building awesome houses and decorating them stunningly on The Sims counts too, right?

 

 

3.) Who needs people when you have dogs (best friends), anyway?

Does this one even need explanation?…….

The more time out with people, the more time away from my dogs!

Both my babies are introverts too, so this works out for us really well.

 

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Relaxing…

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When we are not relaxing in bed, we are probably out eating…

4.) I never get bored.

My mom always told us when we were little if we whined of boredom, “only boring people get bored.”

She is right. And I have always remembered this. And through my introversion and alone time, I always value it and use it wisely to do what I can’t when I am around other people!